The Question that Changed my Life

I know I'm not alone in feeling that life can be a rollercoaster, and the journey of a creative is no exception.

From tech troubles to feeling drained, I had a doozy of a week leading up to this podcast episode.

I did my head in with troubleshooting a lot of sticky tech stuff, which you will hear about.

And I did a number on my life force – I felt pretty defeated and detached.

 But luckily, the Universe delivered a Netflix special created by Jonah Hill about his therapist Phil Stutz, author of the Tools.

 And while the documentary was nothing short of beautiful and cathartic – there was one question posed by Stutz that completely changed my life!

 “Would you rather be right or create?”

 I’ve only heard it as, “Would you rather be right or happy?” And because the word “happy” doesn’t mean much to me, I’ve always dismissed it.

 But because “to create” brings me such joy, and it is loaded with “servitude”, the answer is simple. I choose to create!

 You can listen to me unpack this here.

 It also prompted me to write a mission statement for my new solo music project – Little Mel. For when my ego tries to protect me from the dangers of performing, and I’m suffering from a post-show vulnerability hangover.

 Sometimes it feels easier to connect to the service of teaching and coaching than to performing or making music.

 But being a channeler of music and standing on stage vulnerable in front of others is an incredible act of service.

 So as my Valentine’s present to you, I give you my Little Mel Mission Statement.

 I call it Love Spells by Little Mel.

 I believe in…

 ☽ The Magic of Music. It’s something greater than ourselves that transports us and heals us.

 ☽ Elevating our inner child - the part of us that dances, dreams, sings and creates without fear.

 ☽ Love in all its forms. And giving Those around you the grace to be completely themselves. And remember to do the same for yourself.

 ☽ The power of Live music and performance; it brings people together, inspires us and makes us feel alive.

 This is what Little Mel represents - a celebration of all that is beautiful, of all that is raw, of all that is kindness.

 I intend the music I sing to be a love spell, cast with every note, every chord, every lyric.

 A love spell for the listener to fall head over heels for themselves. And that this love lingers and grows.

 As I always do, I hope this resonates with you and encourages you to keep singing. Remember, by being yourself and going for your dreams, you can change lives.

 Love from your Fearless Singer mate

Mel X ❤️‍🔥🎵